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Emotional Turmoil - 11/18/2008 2:16:33 PM
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jesuschick247
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I know we have a thread on physical abuse, but what about emotional? Some one can cause you emotional abuse by the language they use towards you, etc. Have any of you experienced emotional abuse? I have...lots. I will come back and post about mine later, after I see what some of your responses are.
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RE: Emotional Turmoil - 11/18/2008 2:30:15 PM
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I have never been in an emotionally abusive relationship. I thank God for this everyday. I do come from a line of abuse, both physically and emotionally but I made a choice that the abuse would stop with me. God has been faithful in shielding me from this. But I also have only been in two relationships in my life. Statisticaly I SHOULD be in an abusive relationship becasue of my upbrining, but thank God all the time that I am not. Yes what a person says can be considered abuse. I am sorry you are going through this. I will pray for God to heal you and show you a way out of this.
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RE: Emotional Turmoil - 11/18/2008 2:39:42 PM
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jesuschick247
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I am glad you have never been in an abusive relationship acf! I was also refering to all people, not just guys, girls can cause just as much emotional abuse. Mine is not going on now, but sometimes, the memory of it is right there breathing down my neck. I wish I could share more with you, I have been healed so much the past two years, but sometimes, I still feet hurt. I want to share more with you, maybe later I will be able to. Chipping the walls I built up has been so hard, I had put a barb-wire fence around my heart,hoping no one would try and climb it, but one of my friends not only climbed it, they were willing to get cut up getting to know the true me. This effort has made me want to totally let this all go. And the abuse was not at home, just so you know! 
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RE: Emotional Turmoil - 11/18/2008 4:00:47 PM
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Roberta_
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Yes.
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RE: Emotional Turmoil - 11/18/2008 4:15:08 PM
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hope4Him
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I grew up in a very emotional/physical, etc abusive home. I still struggle with "old tapes" from when i was a child.... but God is faithful!
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RE: Emotional Turmoil - 11/18/2008 4:18:06 PM
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jesuschick247
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ORIGINAL: hope4Him
I grew up in a very emotional/physical, etc abusive home. I still struggle with "old tapes" from when i was a child.... but God is faithful!
Amen! He is faithful! I think He puts the right people in our lives to help us take our barb-wire fences down, but I am still kind of scared to let mine down completely.
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RE: Emotional Turmoil - 11/18/2008 7:20:48 PM
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RE: Emotional Turmoil - 11/18/2008 8:17:22 PM
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Yes.
I was told I was a "bad" daughter, "bad" sister, "bad" wife, and "bad" mother.
"Old tapes" was mentioned.
Sometimes they still play and are very hard not to listen to.
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RE: Emotional Turmoil - 11/18/2008 9:01:33 PM
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No. My family wasn't perfect, but we were loved.
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RE: Emotional Turmoil - 11/18/2008 9:03:45 PM
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ORIGINAL: Consecrated2God
No. My family wasn't perfect, but we were loved.
That is an awesome testimony that will prayerfully continue through all generations in your family.
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RE: Emotional Turmoil - 11/18/2008 9:27:42 PM
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Yes. I believe that's the very reason behind why I leave every man I date. I'm still not healed from the emotional abuse I received as a child.
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RE: Emotional Turmoil - 11/18/2008 10:32:32 PM
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My childhood was filled with emotional abuse and some physical abuse. It was a wretched existence until I turned 12 and accepted Christ through a bible study I attended. My life (in a good way) has never been the same since. I do have some scars from what I experienced but they are mostly gone from studying God's word and prayer and some counseling.
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RE: Emotional Turmoil - 11/18/2008 11:46:22 PM
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I grew up in one. My dad was horrible with the emotional/verbal abuse to everyone in the family - but everyone outside of our family would probably have never imagined him doing so. He still talks very negatively about my mom behind her back (they're still married). It was, and still is, painful for me to hear him talk like that about our mom, even though the abuse has stopped with us children. I don't think it's as bad now as it was when we were younger, though. It isn't all my dad's blame either, my mom does her fair share of emotional abuse too (denying, ignoring, and 'forgetting about' my dad).
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RE: Emotional Turmoil - 11/19/2008 12:08:47 AM
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Heaps. Heaps upon heaps, especially in junior high and high school.
I was thinking about this today, something I can very clearly remember from when I was probably around 7 years old, I drew a picture during church of me lying on the ground, with a poisonous snake biting me. I'm not sure that I was expressing that I wanted to die, but ...I don't know. That I didn't deserve to live any longer? To this day I don't know what put that thought into my head, but it was there long enough (by that time) that it was just an assumption on my part. It surprised me that my mom got upset at the drawing when I showed it to her.
Have ya'll ever heard the song My Struggle by Seventh Day Slumber? It SO epitomises the back and forth, back and forth emotional struggle between the hatred and the hurt, and realizing that Jesus really does love us - and for a reason.
Must be some mistake
'Cause I'm not worth the price you paid.
With every passing hour
I convince myself that you saw something in me.
But I can hear them still,
As the whispers laced with hatred fill the room.
Guess I'm wasting my time
How could you love a man like me?
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RE: Emotional Turmoil - 11/19/2008 2:39:22 AM
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jesuschick247
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*Breathes deeply*
Okay, I think I am ready to share now. My parents have always been the most loving and caring that a girl could ask for, there is nothing they wouldn't do for me. I was always the outgoing and bubbly girl, and then High School hit and with it a lot of stuff I wasn't used to.
I have always been one to have more guy friends than girl friends and that got me called HORRIBLE things by the other girls, things I can't even say, not only on here, but anywhere. Every day in the locker room they would tell me the only reason guys liked me was because I was a flirt, that I would never be good enough to have someone really love me for me, that I was fat and all kinds of terrible things. I don't think there was a day I didn't cry myself to sleep at night. I slowly let the things they said sink into my heart and soul, especially the part that I would never, ever find or be good enough for the right guy to love me for just being me.
My Grandma had been diagnosed with dementia a few months before my sophomore year, so I couldn't tell my mom, I didn't want to be a burden to her or anyone else. I let myself grow close to one of the other girls at school and told her some stuff and she betrayed my trust, it was horrible. She took the things I had told her and started terrible rumors about me, somedays, I thought I would like to just go to sleep and never wake up again.
The guys would say horrible stuff too, not towards me but towards other girls, especially ones that were fat. So, I decided I better lose weight, because I wanted them to like me.
The guys I knew were always smooth talkers, they would flirt with me, and lead me on emotionally and then decide to ask out the other girl, because they knew she would go all the way. I tried not to let this get to me, but it did. It hurt to feel like guys only wanted you until they found out you had morals, until they really got to know you. Because of all of this, I became extremely depressed and there were times I really, really wanted to die.
I wasn't even fat, but I became Anorexic over the whole deal, at my lowest point I was barely 110 pounds and I am 5'8", so I looked like a ghost. Thing is no matter how much weight I lost, I still saw myself as fat. It sometimes felt like the only thing I could control was what I ate, so when I was upset or hurt or mad...I just wouldn't eat. It was a downward spiral until the night that I almost died.
After that, I got on my knees and was like "God, I can't do this anymore, you have to help me!" I finally told my mom, she got me help and I started going to an amazing youth group, one that fed my spiritually, emotionally, and mentally. It has been a super slow process and I still somedays struggle with letting people in, I am so much better than I was, but there are days when those "Tapes" still play in my head.
When I first got to the youth group that I'm in now, there was this one guy and he was so determined to be my friend, it was like no matter how hard I shoved or how mean I was to him, he wouldn't go away. He's the first person to ever stick it out long enough to make it over the barb-wire fence around my heart, and to really get to know the real me, something no one had been able to do since before High School. I know he has gotten cut by some of the things I have said and done to him and yet, he sticks around. There isn't a day that goes by that I don't thank God for him, yeah we still have our disagreements, but the thing is, he's always there for me. He has never ran away, even when he knows that I'm having a totally horrible day. He's taught me to trust again, and he's the one who made me realize I want this fence to be gone, I want to be able to love with all that I am!
I have finally got my laugh and smile back though, and I don't ever want to lose them again! I want to be whole and free to be who I am, I'm getting there, but I want to be there all the way!
Sorry that was so long, but it felt so good to get that off my chest! Thanks for listening!
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RE: Emotional Turmoil - 11/19/2008 2:37:48 PM
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I was emotionally and mentally abused as a child. I still struggle today with it too. Like the person doesn't mean it, but even now they say things that take me back to those days.
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RE: Emotional Turmoil - 11/19/2008 2:39:42 PM
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jesuschick247
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(((HUGS))) All of us ladies have to let God heal our hearts, I just feel so much better actually sharing what has been bottled up inside so long, it helps me feel like I'm healing.
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RE: Emotional Turmoil - 11/19/2008 10:04:41 PM
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No. My family wasn't perfect, but we were loved.
Same here. I also managed to come through school and college unscarred. There were isolated things here and there, but nothing I would classify as emotional abuse.
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